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Why swiping right is not always the answer | Guest Writer Skye Pember

After spending the last 2 years of my 14 year relationship and marriage feeling very lonely and unloved, what was the first thing I did when I separated from my now ex husband?

You guessed it, I signed up for Tinder and started swiping.  Mainly to the left (that means i’m not interested) but the right swipe got a lot of interest as well.  At first it was a lot of fun, it was like a smorgasbord of men and I could say yes or no in 1 second!

It was quite a powerful feeling. I got a lot of matches, which meant I got a lot of ego satisfaction.  It was almost like a little ‘yes’ moment, I got a match, this must validate how amazing I am.

Except it really didn’t.  For every right swipe and match, at least 1 out of 3 would be an immediate unmatch, meaning these guys swipe on every girl and when they get a match they decide if they like her or not. Such a good feeling for an insecure woman who has just come out of a relationship!

Most of the matches I got were interested in quick flings and nothing else, and this physically made me feel pretty worthless…

So I got 5 seconds of ego stroking when I got a match, that then resulted in me feeling worthless as a woman –  just what I needed after coming out of a miserable marriage!

My obsession with Tinder was going on about the same time I met the women of Wyld Tribe and their amazing team. I was originally very Intrigued and possibly skeptical about this group of women who seemed to dance around with face paint and feathers while they did some drumming and singing. Obviously that was my first impression!

Then I started listening, watching and experiencing them as a group.  The focus they put on respecting and honouring ourselves as women is inspiring and slightly humbling.

They reminded me that we don’t need men to define ourselves, which is what I was doing every time I swiped right. I want to make it clear, the Wyld Tribe women are not man haters or anti-men, they just believe in focusing on women as supporters of each other, in encouraging women to cheer each other on – rather than working against each other.

I’m still getting my head around Wyld Tribe, I still ask ALOT of questions, and the team are ridiculously patient with me!

All of their events, whether it’s Sistahood Circles, Wild Woman Weekend or even Sistahood Rising in November, focus on celebrating the feminine.

And that’s when I realised, sure I can swipe right as often as I want, but it doesn’t define me!  It doesn’t mean I’m a queen because I got a match from the cute surfer, or I’m a sexy goddess because the tattooed guy messaged me!

I’m a queen and a goddess, because I’m a woman! For no other reason.  Every morning I look in the mirror and tell myself, you are beautiful inside and out.

I still find myself getting that rush when I get a match, but I don’t let it define me as much as I used to.  Now, I know that yes it’s a nice feeling but it doesn’t change who I am – and if they choose to unmatch me, that’s their loss, not mine!

So thanks Wyld Tribe, I’m still the new girl trying to work you out and understand my place amongst this amazing group of women, but I’ve stopped seeing my matches as what defines me, I’m a woman and I’m pretty awesome – if the guys don’t see it, that’s their loss!  My loss is the time spent worrying about it which I have stopped doing – so I’m gaining confidence and extra time!

So what does this mean – I’m not anti Tinder or any of those dating apps, I’m just saying that it doesn’t define you – it doesn’t validate your self worth. You are in control of your self worth, but a few amazing women surrounding you definitely helps!

Helping your children make healthy choices – What to focus on and how to do it | Guest Writer Bethany Hatton

According to Psychology Today, healthy habits are established early in life and are very difficult to change. Sadly, society isn’t a great help in this regard — today’s entertainment platforms encourage sedentary behavior, sugar and processed foods are often directly marketed at children, and teens may face peer pressure to try smoking, alcohol, or drugs. All the more reason to start instilling and reinforcing healthy habits as early as possible. Here are some tips on how to go about it.

Healthy Eating

Healthy eating habits established in childhood predict obesity in later life, so it’s important to get your kids off to a good start. The first thing to realize is that almost all toddlers and young children are picky eaters, and it can take a lot of persistence before they start to accept new foods. You should also be careful not to turn healthy eating into a power struggle. Using pressure or coercion, such as not letting them have certain toys unless they eat their spinach, can lead to rebellion and resentment. Negotiation tactics, such as offering a cookie if they eat their vegetables, will also backfire because children will just learn to value desserts more than healthy food. Instead, be a good role model with your own dietary choices, eat as a family at the table, and give them some control over how much they eat — but not what they eat.

Limiting Caffeine

Doctors writing for Healthline point out that caffeine consumption in children can impair bone development, increase anxiety, affect sleep quality, and cause neurological problems — to name but a few side effects. The problem is not just the caffeine, but the sugar, colorings, and other additives that are usually present in energy drinks and sodas. In accordance with the division of responsibility in feeding, you decide what, when, and where to eat, and your children decide how much — so when it comes to caffeine, you are free to set the limits yourself. The occasional drink is fine, but in terms of the daily consumption of caffeine, it’s best to wait until late adolescence or early adulthood.

Minimize Stress

Unhealthy behaviors like binge eating, alcohol use, or smoking are very often a form of self-medication against stress. While difficult times will happen, you can still do your best to make home life as stress-free as possible. Start by keeping the house organized and clutter-free — mess leads to stress, as the saying goes. Keep adult or dangerous items out of children’s reach, including caffeinated drinks and unhealthy foods. Be a role model yourself by managing your own stress levels, and by talking to your children about your own feelings — in simple terms at first. This will help them develop the desire and vocabulary to come to you when they have troubles of their own.

Encourage Exercise

The fight against video games and gadgets is a tough one, but you can win it. Start by looking into your child’s own interests — if there is any physical activity they like, be it a sport, gardening, dancing, or playing the drums, encourage them to keep doing it. If they have an interest to start with, the battle is already half won. Next, do active activities together as a family — you could go to the park and throw a ball or frisbee around, go on a hike, or go on a family bike ride. This HuffPost article has some further suggestions on how to get kids into an exercise habit.

All children rebel against healthy habits, and it can sometimes feel like an uphill struggle to get kids to look after themselves. However, if you’re persistent, set fair boundaries, and act as a good role model yourself, you’ll have a great chance of breaking through the barriers and planting the seeds of healthy behaviors. Once planted, these seeds will grow into positive wellness habits that will last into adulthood.

Bethany Hatton

Eat Less Sugar… cause you’re already sweet enough! | Guest Writer “Mumma O”

Mumma O was born in 2013 when I was pregnant with my son. I’d been experimenting with raw sweets for about a year and decided I wanted to share a few of my recipes via Facebook and grow my collection. My purpose was to also better nourish myself during pregnancy as well as slowly developing recipes for my little guy once he was earth side and ready to eat. I launched my page and within a week I already had 1,000 followers. Over next 4 years I shared recipes, photos, kitchen tips and tricks, hosted numerous workshops and sampling evening, gave out samples, ran market stalls, hosted competitions and was a guest at local events.

I”ll never forget the market stall I shared with a friend at 34 weeks pregnant with my second child. I had to arrange my morning and find somebody to look after my 2 year old son firstly (I get mad mumma guilts!). It was a freak 38 degree day and we were set up on the black bitumen car park. It was so hot under our tent and these markets had recently been moved from a really successful spot. The new spot however was not so successful and I made $150 profit. 6 hours of setting up and packing up and standing in the sun (not to mention all the work it took to make all my product). That was my last market. Having raw treats in markets is a challenge in itself to keep anything from melting and spoiling, let alone being heavily pregnant and over it.

Perhaps I should of persisted? Perhaps in 6 months I would of had 100’s of followers coming each week to grab their favourite treats. Who knows? As a mother of two now I have realised I simply can’t do everything, so I focus on what I can do. I’ve never used daycare and wanted to be the mum who taught my children how to behave at the shops, how to cook, and for them to realise that things just don’t happen, we make them happen as a family and as a team. I hit 10,000 in December 2016 and am currently at 11,805.

It is a continuous work in progress and a labour of love. I’m always thinking of my next post, recipe, photo, eBook and how to broaden my reach. I have never paid somebody to assist me in my marketing to date, but it is most definitely something I’d consider. Social media sites such as Facebook for example are relying more on paid and sponsored advertising, so if I went down that road to gain maximum exposure and more reach then I would seriously consider some assistance. Facebook and Instagram have changed so much in the past 4 years. I love what I do. I love helping people make better choices. That has and always will be my mantra.

If you can afford organic superfood ingredients then that’s awesome. If you can only afford dates and coconut from Coles then that’s also awesome. Why? Because it’s still better than buying a highly processed Snickers Bar full of refined and synthetic. 2 bags of dates is $3.20. 2 bags of salted peanuts is around $4. A bag of coconut is $3. Two blocks of dark chocolate are $4 and a jar of coconut oil is $5. So for $25 (ish) you can make two slabs (40 decent squares) of different slices (which are freezable and will store for months. See where I’m going? I wanted healthier options to be accessible to everyone.

So, going back a little, my recipe collection grew from 20 recipes at the end of 2013 in my first year to 129 now in my Sweet Recipe Photo Album today. It was all trial and error, a labour of love and everything was made from the heart. It was a hobby turned into a dream and a lifestyle.

In December 2017 I launched my first eBook ‘Mumma O Basics.’ It’s pretty basic, and very basic on the eye. I love it, but, knew there was room to grow and improve tenfold on presentation and style. I’d been using essential oils on and off for 4 years and then came across Young Living which has 35 culinary oils approved by the food standards of Australia and New Zealand. I was impressed. I was more than impressed! So I switched out my old oils I used in the home and on myself and the kids and started on my Young Living journey in December 2017. In the first week of April 2018 I launched my second eBook ‘Healthy Treats With Essential Oils.’ It’s 100% better than the first. My photography skills are improving and I’m slowly simplifying the content and steps in the recipes. I never stop learning. I just wish I had a bucket of money to tip in and get everything I need. Don’t we all!

My kitchen is approved by our local council so now I take lots of private orders for birthdays, kitchen teas and the like, as well as supplying 5 cafes with healthy sweet options. Now, as a mother of two, 4 and under it’s a constant juggle. I love to keep fit as I believe a strong body assists in building a strong mind. I still teach Body Combat and Body Pump a few times a week and have a few long term clients I still personal train. Team that with being a Mum (most fulfilling AND hardest job all in one!) and experimenting in the kitchen and yep it’s busy! I am a constant work in progress. Some weeks I might make $150 and some it’s 5 times that and sometimes more and sometimes less. Overall, it grows each year either financially or portfolio wise. Mumma O will continue to build and I will continue to love and embrace my journey within it.

Mumma O love’s motivating and inspiring people to clean out their kitchens a little and to make a few healthier choices for their families. Most of her recipes consist of cheap, easy and accessible ingredients that you can buy at the supermarket.. without racing around to specialty shops and having to order from the ends of the earth over the net. She has simplified so many recipes so that the busiest of people can make it in a flash. You can find her at Facebook and Instagram.